How to not care about your wedding (for dummies)

10 days. That's how many days are in between now and my wedding. How. Insane. Is that? There's been some time since I last posted because of the obvious reason, I've been so busy. So, let's dive into that for today. 

Right off the bat, before I was even engaged, I knew planning a wedding was going to be a big kick to my butt. So, I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't turn into a bridezilla. That resulted in me maybe looking like I didn't even care about a lot of aspects about my wedding. I left a lot of decision making up to my bridesmaids and parents. I told them my ideas but let them run with it. If anything came up, I would shrug and say, "whatever works." Honestly, I am seriously proud of myself for that. I am an uptight person; I can admit that. I knew if I didn't force myself to care less about the planning, it would be no fun for everyone including me. 

Knowing that, I can confidently say everyone needs to care less about their wedding. 

There were sometimes I was totally wrapped up in the chaos of it all. I would feel very picky and on edge at these times. My brain would remind myself that this is in fact the day I have been looking forward to my whole entire life. Hearing myself say that did no ounce of help. There were a few weeks I was a complete brat, especially to Andrew. I took all my stress out on HIM. Can you believe that?? Me planning the wedding that celebrates our love was kind of tearing us apart. I was so quick to be upset and rude, just because of the weight I felt on my shoulders from planning. When I realized I had been doing that, I did everything I could to change. 

That's when I kind of stopped caring. Once I took the pressure off of myself, I realized that this day could be an absolute chaotic mess and it wouldn't matter- because we aren't there for the party. We are there simply to be married. To say to the world "We are partners, forever." 

I was able to center myself and come out of that bridezilla stage I had nearly approached. Our engagement had become full of love and excitement again, as it should have always been. 

Running with that perspective, I stopped stressing about the finer details like what sort of candles we have or what car picks us up for the sendoff or how much weight I "should" be losing. None of it was important to me anymore. The most important decision I had made was choosing Andrew to be my forever (oh and having my dream dress... that was important too).

As the wedding approaches, and I can actually count how many days are left on my fingers, I find comfort in the fact that the whole day is just about me and Andrew's love. I am not trying to entertain anyone. I am not responsible for anyone's perceptions of me, Andrew, or the wedding. I don't owe anyone anything. I am beyond confident in my decision to have Andrew as my husband, and that's all the wedding is. A manifestation of our excitement of forever together. 

So, to any brides-to-be that may be reading this, just take a moment to remember why the wedding is even happening in the first place. Maybe do a little something nice for your fiancé, they had to deal with your stressed-out energy for months in the time that you should be feeling the most in love.