It's V-day babes

It seems fitting today to talk about one of the biggest topics online: self-love. I hate it! Listen- it has all good intentions I know, but to me, it really really sucks. Everyone says "love yourself", "be your own best friend", "create a life you are excited to wake up for", "face masks and ice rollers", blah blah. They're all genuine ideas- just so useless. I hear this stuff non-stop. Which in the end, it makes it so none of the advice actually means anything. It isn't new or special. So, I find myself thinking, okay so wait like how am I actually supposed to like myself? No one is telling me?! I see everyone becoming "that girl" and I feel trapped in a loop.

I am V E R Y confident that I am not the only one finding myself in this position. I feel stuck. There are days I absolutely adore myself yes, but then there's the others where- let's just say not so much. But I am here to single handedly save the world from this awful in-between spot. I have revolutionized the world of self-love. Okay maybe not but I swear this is the first thing that has made an actual difference in my life. It came to me one morning when I pulled into work (bright and early at 8am might I add). I was bumpin to my music- and I drive a crappy, shaky old Nissan so when there is even a smidge of bass- anyone in a 10-mile radius can hear it. I saw people walking out of the gym and out to the parking lot and I hurried and turned down my music, I didn't wanna disturb their walk to their car. And then I realized, that. is. so. dumb. Why am I ruining my little fun moment just to fit inside the background of someone else's? 

So that is where my showstopping piece of advice was born. I needed to learn how to stop living my life for other people and learn how to live it for myself instead. Wow. I know right. But think about it, how many times have you turned off your music when you have your window down and you're stopped at a red light? How many times did you stop yourself from being goofy and having fun in public because you didn't want to annoy anyone? The purpose of existence isn't to be in the background of other people's lives. You exist for yourself. So, if you catch yourself limiting your actions for the fear of other people- stop. Keep taking cute pics right on main street and keep ordering super complicated coffee orders and keep to yourself by reading a book on a park bench. It feels so good. 

I've actually noticed I am so much happier since I've stopped being a background character. My role in life isn't a supporting one- it is the main one. Knowing that, what is the point of living for others? Just like the one and only Rex Orange County (LOML [second to Andrew of course]) says, "you don't owe the strangers anything." It's true. You owe yourself and only yourself a beautiful life. :) Let me clear on one thing, I am not supporting doing things that HARM or hurt other people, I feel like that's obvious. Still be a considerate human being. But your storyline needs your love and support more than anyone else's. So, nurture it. 

I'm not sitting here writing about how to become so in love with yourself and be the most confident person in the world, cause tbh I don't know how to. That is something I am still working on too. BUT, I am saying, a good place to start would be allowing yourself to do things that make you happy- and the rest will come.